Test: female desireLibido test for women: 13 questions about your desire

A libido test helps you assess in 5 minutes how alive your desire is right now and what is holding it back. It does not give a diagnosis: there is a problem only if low desire is causing you distress.

Natalia Muzyka, psychologist and sexologist Updated 9 October 2026 8 min read

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Key points

Answer about the last month. What you were like at 20 does not matter now.
The points show what is happening with your desire right now, but they do not give a diagnosis.
A low score without distress points to a trait, not an illness.
The questions where you scored 1 point tell you where to start.

Libido test for women: how to take it

This libido test for women helps you understand how alive your desire is right now and what is weighing on it. Take a sheet of paper, answer about the last month and write the points next to the question number.

Choose the option that is closest to the truth, even if it seems like the wrong one. Nobody but you will see the answers. If you are torn between two, take the one that happens more often.

The test questions

How often have you thought about sex in the last month?
- Almost every day: 3 points
- Once or twice a week: 2 points
- Hardly at all: 1 point
Does it happen that you suddenly want intimacy, for no reason?
- Yes, regularly: 3 points
- Occasionally: 2 points
- I can’t remember the last time: 1 point
When your partner starts touching you, what usually happens?
- I switch on quickly: 3 points
- Nothing at first, then I warm up: 2 points
- I wait for it to be over: 1 point
Do you have erotic fantasies?
- Yes, and I like them: 3 points
- Sometimes, but I feel embarrassed by them: 2 points
- No: 1 point
Do you touch yourself?
- Yes, and I know what feels good to me: 3 points
- Rarely or without much pleasure: 2 points
- Never, I find it unpleasant or shameful: 1 point
How much pleasure did sex bring you in the last month?
- A lot: 3 points
- It varied: 2 points
- Almost none, or there was no sex because I didn’t want it: 1 point
Do you get pain, burning or dryness during sex?
- No: 3 points
- Sometimes: 2 points
- Often: 1 point
How well do you sleep?
- I usually get enough sleep: 3 points
- Every other night: 2 points
- I am constantly short of sleep: 1 point
Are there resentments in your couple right now that you don’t talk about?
- No, or I don’t have a partner: 3 points
- There are small ones: 2 points
- Yes, and they are piling up: 1 point
How do you feel about your body during intimacy?
- Calm, I feel good in it: 3 points
- Sometimes I think about how I look from the outside: 2 points
- I feel self-conscious all the time and hide: 1 point
How often do you agree to sex you don’t want?
- Never: 3 points
- Sometimes: 2 points
- Often: 1 point
How is your desire now compared with a year ago?
- The same or stronger: 3 points
- A little weaker: 2 points
- Noticeably weaker: 1 point
Does your level of desire bother you?
- No: 3 points
- Sometimes: 2 points
- Yes, a lot: 1 point

Key point
The points show what is happening with your desire right now, but they do not give a diagnosis.

Libido test results: what the points mean

Add up all the points: you will get a number from 13 to 39. The higher the total, the fewer brakes your desire has right now.

Points	What it usually means	Where to start
31–39	Desire is alive, the body responds, there are no serious obstacles	Protect what works and talk to your partner about something new
22–30	Desire is there, but often comes only once things have started, or fades from tiredness and daily routine	Find the questions with 1 point and start with them
13–21	Desire is under heavy pressure right now: tiredness, pain, resentment or shame	See which level the ones fall on: body, head or state, and work on them together, preferably with me at a consultation

31–39 points. Your desire is doing well. You may want sex more often than your partner, and then the task is to reach agreements with him. A high libido on its own is no reason to worry.

22–30 points. The most common result among women in long-term relationships, especially with children. If you scored 2 points on questions 2 and 3, your desire is most likely responsive: it does not come in advance but wakes up from touch. That is a healthy variant, and there is a separate article about responsive desire. Look at where your ones are; those are your brakes.

13–21 points. Desire is having a hard time right now. The questions here fall into three levels: 5, 6 and 7 are about the body, 4, 9, 10 and 11 about the head, 8 and 12 about the state you live your day in. Wherever you have the most ones, that level is the main one right now, so start there: the body if it hurts or is dry, the head if resentment and shame are piling up, the state if you have no energy for anything. But fixing one level is not enough: you have slept and there is still no desire, or the gynaecologist found nothing and sex is still a chore. The result holds only when all three are working. There is a step-by-step plan on the page about how to increase female libido.

Look separately at question 13. If the result is low but it does not bother you, there is no problem. If the result is average but you are suffering because of it, that matters more than any total.

Why a libido test is not a diagnosis

The test shows the picture as of today and helps you put the problem into words, but it does not give a diagnosis. For a diagnosis, a sexologist or a doctor takes a history, rules out physical causes and looks at how much the situation is tormenting you.

According to ICD-11 and DSM-5, low desire counts as a disorder only if it causes marked distress. A total score does not measure that. So the same result in two women can mean different things: one lives calmly with rare sex, the other cries after every time she turns her husband down.

I will share a terrible secret with you: there is no universal norm.

Where this test comes from

Many years ago I published a “sexual constitution” test, and people still search for it. It had questions about the angle of the knees, the length of the toes and pubic hair growth. I removed those questions: in a consultation they say nothing about what is happening with desire right now.

From the old test I kept the main thing: the points, the three ranges and the idea that sexual appetite is different for everyone. The new questions are about what I actually ask at the first meeting: sleep, pain, the relationship, shame, sex without desire.

I talk about sexual constitution in detail in my practicum “Orgasm. Everything you need to know”: it has a separate lesson, “Sexual constitution, or what libido is”, and the “Wheel of sexual balance” we start self-diagnosis with (the practicum is in Russian and Ukrainian).

Key point
A low score without distress points to a trait, not an illness.

What to do after the test

Keep the sheet with your answers and take the test again in two or three months. Compare the result with your own past; your friends are not the yardstick here. If you want a quicker way to see which level is the main one right now, body, head or state, take my “Sexual check-up”: it takes two minutes and leads to a video for your result.

If you want to understand how female libido works and why it changes, start with the main page of this section. If you think it is about hormones, first read which hormone is really responsible for desire. I work with the body and the intimate muscles on my practicum “Healthy and Desired” (it runs in Russian and Ukrainian). And if the result has worried you, come to a consultation with a sexologist, and we will go through your answers together.

My method

The Female Power Formula

The test shows where your desire is right now and what is weighing on it, but it is a picture of today, not a treatment. The points change nothing by themselves: behind them stand the body, the head and your state, and the answers usually show that more than one of them has dropped. Fix only one and the result holds for a short while. That is why I work with a woman on all three levels at once.

1

Body

PionBox trainers, pelvic floor muscles, breathing and body practices: learning to feel your body, not just know about it.

2

Mind

Beliefs, shame, boundaries and the right to pleasure: lectures, assignments, live Zoom calls with me and my game about body, sex and relationships.

3

State

Meditations, energy and tantric practices: the strength to want, instead of waking up drained.

Sources

ICD-11 (WHO) HA00 Hypoactive sexual desire dysfunction; DSM-5 Female sexual interest/arousal disorder
Basson R., 2000, The female sexual response: a different model, J Sex Marital Ther
WHO, Sexual health fact sheets

Female libido

Main page of this topic Female libido: what it is, the norm, why it drops, how to get it back

Libido, in simple words, is sexual desire: how often you want intimacy and how easily your body responds to it. Any level that causes no distress to you or your partner counts as normal.

Female libido How to increase female libido without pills

You can raise your libido without pills if you work on three levels at once: body, head and state. Sleep, lubricant, a talk with your partner or new experiences do help, but if you fix just one thing, the effect soon fades: the other two levels keep smothering desire. The result lasts only when all three levels have been worked on, not just one.

Fact-check Do Kegel exercises help desire?

Simply squeezing the muscles with no load, as in classic Kegel exercises, does little for desire. What helps is intimate gymnastics with a trainer: it boosts blood flow in the pelvis, makes sensations and orgasm brighter, takes away the fear of leaking, and desire follows. I see this in my students every day.

Main page of this topic Female libido: what it is, the norm, why it drops, how to get it back

Libido, in simple words, is sexual desire: how often you want intimacy and how easily your body responds to it. Any level that causes no distress to you or your partner counts as normal.

Fact-check Responsive desire: Basson's model and why it doesn't come by itself

Responsive desire shows up not before intimacy but during it: from a kiss, from touch, from the atmosphere. Sexologist Rosemary Basson described it in 2000, and a lack of spontaneous desire on its own is not considered a malfunction.

Questions and answers

Short answers to the questions people ask most often.

How do you check a woman's libido level?

There is no precise instrument or lab test for it. Sexologists use questionnaires and conversation: how often desire comes, how the body responds to touch and whether your current state bothers you.

Can libido be checked with a blood test?

No. Hormone levels in the blood do not show whether your desire is strong or weak; tests are needed only when there are physical complaints.

How do you know if you have a high libido?

You think about sex often, switch on easily and want intimacy more often than your partner. This is a feature of temperament, and it is worth worrying about only if desire starts to run your decisions.

What is “sexual constitution”?

That is what Soviet sexology called innate sexual temperament: strong, medium or weak. Today people talk more about how desire changes in different periods of life.

Can a man take this libido test?

The questions are written for women; some of them are about the cycle, childbirth and dryness. A man is better off discussing his desire with a urologist-andrologist or a sexologist.

How often should I take the test?

Once every few months or after big changes: childbirth, switching the pill, moving house. That makes it easier to notice what is changing.

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